Washington Family Magazine : November 2015
washingtonFAMILY.com November 2015 11 3. Your student is muddling through a rough patch. Sometimes life gets messy: hormones, moving, a new baby, unemployment, illness, etc., can all wreak havoc. Since children are not immune to stress, they may fall behind in school work or be distracted in class. Tutoring can provide a safe haven to study and learn new strategies to navigate a rough patch. 4. You find yourself hiding under the bed during homework time. It can be emotionally traumatic for both parent and struggling student when school work is too confusing or difficult. An alternative to climbing into the dryer (I suppose there are other more comfy escapes) and hoping for the best is to contact an expert. Don’t feel guilty when a teacher demands parents be involved at home. Tutoring involves patient, mindful and sensitive measures to empower your child without bribes, yelling or guilt trips. I’ve received calls from desperate parents at the height of a parent-child homework meltdown (and can hear the wailing in the background). It’s OK and normal if what your child needs is anyone other than you to help. 5. Your student struggles with a teacher. Like their students, teachers aren’t perfect, and not all student-teacher matches are made in heaven. My own son is oversensitive to whether a teacher likes him, and if he perceives dislike, he shuts down and misses instruction. Our other son struggled with a teacher who frequently raised her voice. Tutors may be able to reach students who are shut down by earning their trust in friendly, upbeat sessions. It’s much easier to be funny, gentle and attentive with just one student—far more challenging with 30 students in the room! Often teachers are stretched thin across a varied group of learners with multiple learning styles. Your student may benefit from a one-on-one arrangement where they feel connected and heard. 6. The classroom is overwhelming. Not everyone learns best sitting at a desk indoors with a group of distracting peers. While some students come alive in a given environment, others may feel over-stimulated or anxious. While it’s tough to control a classroom’s dynamics, some tutoring help may fill gaps where understanding breaks down due to distraction or disruption.