Washington Family Magazine : May 2017
26 May 2017 washingtonFAMILY.com Kim Williams Mom to Chris, age 34, Nick, age 32, Jennifer, age 30, Alex, age 29, Sam, age 24, Abigail, age 22 and Noah, age 18 Manassas, VA Occupation Personal Care Attendant, Full-time babysitting grandma, Advocate for children and families What advice would you give to new or expectant moms? Read, learn and listen to everything, take away what fits, and just do you. Every parent feels they’ve fallen short, but that just proves it matters to you. Hug a lot—I felt as though I missed too many opportunities. Always wear comfortable shoes. You never know when you’re going to have to run. Parenting is not for sissies. Whine if you need to, then stand up and move on because you are the bottom line now. Kids learn more from watching you than they do from listening to you, good or bad. How has motherhood changed your outlook on life? I’ve stopped taking pictures and learned to live the moments. I’ve learned that I can be an imperfect parent and they can be imperfect children/adults and it only makes us love each other more. I’ve learned the value of “I’m sorry” in both directions. I’ve realized that success is a really individual experience and no one type is more right than another. I have the additional perspective of having a son with disabilities and that’s taught me a lot. I’m so flexible, I’m fluid. How do you think your child(ren) would describe you? I’d be described as strict, but well- intentioned. They would say I expect a lot of those around me, and they would be right. They’d also say that I believe family matters to me and that I care about people, but that I could use more patience. They would all agree that I have a good sense of humor— that’s mandatory in motherhood. Secret to balancing: During the worst of it I learned to live on less sleep. (Sleep is for the weak. It’s highly overrated.) I also learned to prioritize how I expend myself. I also learned to minimize. For example, kids don’t know the difference between food that took 20 minutes to cook and food that took all day. Most importantly, live with gratitude. It makes the lack of sleep and hours of exhaustive effort way easier to manage. Kim is described as a “super hero” by her friends and family. She’s a single-mother to seven, grandmother and is deeply involved in her community. Kim is an avid volunteer and advocate, and involved in many non-profit organizations. I’ve learned that I can be an imperfect parent and they can be imperfect children/adults and it only makes us love each other more.